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Are you comfortable?

Tuesday, October 19th, 2010

What are the situations and areas you feel comfortable in?

If you ever watched The Simpsons, you know that Homer loves sitting on his couch, wriggling into the “grooves” that have never failed to support him.

Feeling comfortable is a great thing and something we naturally strive for. However, there is also the other side of that coin. Staying with what you already know, can hold you back from growing or challenging yourself. From doing things differently. From trying something that you don’t know yet.

Think of something you would like to change in your life. It can be something really small. Do you put yourself out there, do you step out of your comfort zone? Or do you stay where it feels comfortable for you?

Doing something new is about taking a risk. However small, it often comes with that nagging feeling of unease. Though, if you never try, how will you be able to change anything?

Ask yourself:
Where do I comfortably sink into? Am I ok with that?
Would I be willing to stretch my comfort zone?
What would be different if I would step out of my comfort zone?

“There are risks and costs to action. But they are far less than the long range risks of comfortable inaction.”

John F. Kennedy

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Thursday, October 7th, 2010

Creativity, play and the unconscious

Thursday, September 30th, 2010

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Recently I did a workshop in Sandplay. As the name already suggests, you literally play with sand in a small tray. When you are done arranging the sand you choose figures from a vast variety of figurines and put them in the tray. No limitations, no thinking involved.

The process in Sandplay makes the unconscious visible through creative play.

Sounds weird? I have tried it myself, and it is surprising what my unconscious was telling me through the play, the sand formation and the figures. Each element told me a story. My beliefs, thoughts, patterns, my mind were on display. It told me about where I had come from, where I am heading and how I was going to do it.

Gail Pemberton who gave the workshop uses Sandplay for individual and couple counselling, and in the corporate environment. She is a wonderful person, curious and engaging and very much in the moment.

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Here are some of the quotes from her workshop that stuck with me

- Every picture has a story to reveal.
- Unconsciousness has more power over our behaviour than we think. Imagery is the primary language of our unconscious.
- Imagery and creative play shows us choices.
- Imagery triggers forgotten parts of ourselves. Allows the shadow to emerge, what we don’t want to see.
- Conflicts in our inner world become more manageable because they are contained.
- It is a creative process.

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Whether we play with sand or paint, dance, doodle, write, sing or make music, these are creative processes that help make the things visible that we are not aware of. Creative play is a beautiful way of learning to manage inner conflicts, to increase self-awareness and to enhance your overall well-being.

I hope this post motivates you to now and then, step outside of ‘how things should be done’.

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Drawing boundaries

Thursday, September 23rd, 2010

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Have you recently felt trapped, perhaps frustrated, angry or you found yourself doing things you didn’t really want to do?

If yes, then maybe it is time to think about your boundaries. Do you know what you want to let in and what you want to keep out in your current life. Have you verbalised your boundaries to others around you. Think of your partner, your children, your parents or people you work with.

Setting boundaries is an act of self-care and respect for yourself. It is about the things and behaviour you want and don’t want or just can’t do. Sometimes it is difficult to say no, because you might feel selfish or you feel you should do it. However, ask yourself, how much are you willing to accept, how much can you handle, how long, what has to give…

Start finding out about your boundaries, so that you can act according to them, more often. And don’t forget to educate others about them, so that they can respect them.

You might also want to read:
The art of saying no
Recipe for change

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Jump-start

Tuesday, September 7th, 2010

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I remember back then when cars refused to start on cold winter days. The motor was too cold to even give you one sound of hope.

However, there was a trick. Cars were equipped with a manual choke – a pull-out knob. When used correctly it helped the car get its engine going.

What, if you would have something like that up your sleeves? Every time you find yourself stuck in a habit, in a situation or in procrastination. You just use your tools and jump-start yourself out of it.

Think about the times when you don’t want to get out of the house for a walk, don’t feel like socialising or don’t seem to be able to act differently. What do you do to get yourself going?

Explore this, so that you can do what works for you in times when you need it.

You might also want to read:
Waiting for…
Dream, Dare, Do

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