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Recipe for change

Thursday, September 9th, 2010

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Jump-start

Tuesday, September 7th, 2010

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I remember back then when cars refused to start on cold winter days. The motor was too cold to even give you one sound of hope.

However, there was a trick. Cars were equipped with a manual choke – a pull-out knob. When used correctly it helped the car get its engine going.

What, if you would have something like that up your sleeves? Every time you find yourself stuck in a habit, in a situation or in procrastination. You just use your tools and jump-start yourself out of it.

Think about the times when you don’t want to get out of the house for a walk, don’t feel like socialising or don’t seem to be able to act differently. What do you do to get yourself going?

Explore this, so that you can do what works for you in times when you need it.

You might also want to read:
Waiting for…
Dream, Dare, Do

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A welcome mat for your fears

Friday, August 27th, 2010

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It’s time to put the welcome mat out for your fears.

Can you think of a situation where you stopped doing what was making you afraid? The fear probably vanished. Though I am also quite confident that this fear came back when you where faced with the same or a similar situation.

There are so many reasons for us to be afraid of doing something different, new or unknown.

The fear of…
… being rejected, not being loved, being abandoned, failing, not being liked, not belonging, becoming anxious, slipping back into the darkness, saying something wrong, hurting someone, not doing enough, doing too much, not being good enough, the future…

Fear is just as part of us as is joy. How come you push it away and try to deny its existence. Still. Quietly you adjust behaviour and adapt aspects of your life to accommodate this fear.

What would it take to get to know what you don’t want to see. Don’t want to have in your life. I know it is difficult.

I also know, the less you spend time pushing fear out of your life the more you can focus on actually doing what it prevented you from all that time. Give it some space to explain itself. You will see fear will ask less and less attention from you.

You might also want to read:
Fairy tales, monsters and life
Conversations with my pink elephant
Ride that bike

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Clutter and mind

Tuesday, August 24th, 2010

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A strong autumn wind found its way into the office, ecstatic about all the papers, post-it notes, pens and nicknacks on the desk. Spinning them around, leaving nothing unturned. Until it had played enough and dropped everything.

This is how my office desk looked like, every day. Piles of paper, important documents, funny things, notes, pens, you name it. When I would start my working day in the morning and looked at my desk, I felt overwhelmed. My breath became heavier, my shoulders carried an invisible weight.

Nothing seemed to stand out.

Everything was important.

Where to start.

Kadira at Unfolding Creativity has written a great post about developing a working habit that supports you. Originally written for artists, it can just as easily be adapted to any kind of work you do. One of the things Kadira is emphasizing is that clearing your work space helps you clear your mind and therefore helps you focus on your art.

Filling your desk with clutter is a habit. A habit you might want to examine about its usefulness and its role. Many people tell me that they can’t live without clutter because this is who they are. They need it, they say. And I understand. It took me a while to create a new habit of keeping my desk clear of unnecessary clutter.

Our brain has the tendency to focus on what is right in front of us. Now that I keep my desk empty, I find it easier to decide what is important, where to start and to keep focused. The weight on my shoulders has lifted.

When was the last time you looked at your working habits. Review them from time to time, to see whether they support you or undermine your efforts.

You might also want to read:
How to reduce distractions and stay focused
Create space for clarityA fresh sheet of paper

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The pursuit of unhappiness

Tuesday, August 17th, 2010

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The story of the man who claps his hands every ten seconds.

When asked the reason for this strange behavior, he replies, “To chase away the elephants.” “Elephants? But there aren’t any around!” Whereupon the man says, “Right. See, I told you so.”

This is just one of the stories in the wonderful book “The Situation is Hopeless but not Serious” by psychologist Paul Watzlawick.
The book is intended for the committed reader who wants to learn how to carefully pursue unhappiness. Through stories and exercises you will find the most useful and effective techniques to guarantee success.

Here are some key points I don’t want to keep from you

Never doubt the assumption, that there is only one solution.

Do more of the same. If it doesn’t work, just do the same more forcefully.

Avoid at all times any feared situation or problem.

Don’t be willing to risk any danger. Just apply common sense – for “what could be more reasonable?”

Treat hunches such as ‘people whispering behind your back’ as a fact.
Act on this fact.

Protect what keeps you from becoming aware of your habits.

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