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Recipe for change

Thursday, September 9th, 2010

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The pursuit of unhappiness

Tuesday, August 17th, 2010

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The story of the man who claps his hands every ten seconds.

When asked the reason for this strange behavior, he replies, “To chase away the elephants.” “Elephants? But there aren’t any around!” Whereupon the man says, “Right. See, I told you so.”

This is just one of the stories in the wonderful book “The Situation is Hopeless but not Serious” by psychologist Paul Watzlawick.
The book is intended for the committed reader who wants to learn how to carefully pursue unhappiness. Through stories and exercises you will find the most useful and effective techniques to guarantee success.

Here are some key points I don’t want to keep from you

Never doubt the assumption, that there is only one solution.

Do more of the same. If it doesn’t work, just do the same more forcefully.

Avoid at all times any feared situation or problem.

Don’t be willing to risk any danger. Just apply common sense – for “what could be more reasonable?”

Treat hunches such as ‘people whispering behind your back’ as a fact.
Act on this fact.

Protect what keeps you from becoming aware of your habits.

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Do your strategies still work, today?

Thursday, August 12th, 2010

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I have been reading Seth Godin’s book Linchpin. In this book he asks us to question the current work system and whether we want to be part of an old or a new one.

Although most of us might assume the system we work in is how it has always been and will be, Seth makes a point in questioning those assumptions. He urges us to explore different, and maybe unfamiliar, ways of working. Ways that make you stand out, and are essentially more aligned with who you want to be.

This got me thinking. While he talks about business, I am wondering when you last questioned the approaches and strategies in your personal life?

Are you disappointed about outcomes that seem to repeat themselves? Do you regularly discover ways of doing that might not work anymore? Maybe there are some that belong to your younger self, not the current self.

From the day we are born we learn how to react to all kinds of situations, consciously and unconsciously. We develop coping strategies that help us deal with difficult situations. In the past they helped us a lot, but are they still useful today?

The point is that we often apply those learned responses and coping strategies without thinking twice about it. If you are not happy with certain outcomes, maybe it is time to start exploring whether you might be able to do things differently.

You might also want to read:
What motivates you
Do you know your why?
Ten important questions to ask yourself
Do your beliefs support you or hold you back?

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Waiting for …

Thursday, August 5th, 2010

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What are you waiting for? For the train to arrive, the dentist to call your name or for things to change so that you can move on.

Do you know that feeling as if you are in a waiting room not knowing what to do, or what decisions to make? No doors or too many doors. In both cases you are in there and don’t go forward, backward or sideward. You are stuck.

When you find yourself in a state of inertia it is often accompanied by low energy and a feeling of being overwhelmed.

For example, you might wish to feel better, to be happier, but don’t know where to start. All seems to be too difficult. “Being happier” is a big and abstract idea that is difficult to grasp.

It is much easier to ask yourself, what are the small things that make you feel better on a daily basis. For one person, it might be going for a walk, for someone else it is meeting a friend. I am sure you can come up with many small things for yourself.

Break down something that is too big, too abstract into small and specific actions. When you do that, you can get yourself out of the waiting room. Because all you have to do is do one small and simple action. You get yourself moving.

One small action, that is all you have to start with.

“Nothing will be attempted if all possible obstacles must first be removed”

Samuel Johnson

You might also want to read:
3 Things to remember when you face change
Dream, Dare, Do

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THE CONFIDENT SPEAKER – Workshop

Thursday, June 3rd, 2010
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This workshop is designed for small business owners and professionals who want to develop confidence to speak in front of others. Learn to use the opportunity every time you make a presentation before an audience

You will learn to:

  • Build confidence as a speaker
  • Connect with your audience
  • Develop your own style of presenting
  • Enjoy sharing your ideas, proposals or visions
  • Manage your nerves and anxiety
  • Redirect your focus to engaging your audience

The only thing stopping people becoming a gifted speaker is fear or anxiety that need redirecting into confidence.

For more information : please contact me via email: info@cpmcounselling.com

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