Do you find yourself saying yes to all sorts of requests, only to regret it afterwards? Here are a few questions that help you say no.
Learning to say no will give you more control and freedom over who you want to assist and it will reduce your daily stress. So, start to practice today. The more you practice the easier it will get to say no in the situations you said yes out of habit.
Ask yourself these questions before you respond to a request:
Do I have the time?
What do I have to give up to do this?
Will I feel pressured?
Will I be upset with myself or resent the person asking?
Will I feel duped or manipulated?
These questions are from Sue Newman’s book “The Book of NO”
This morning I was heading to a meeting and realised how many road signs you see when driving a car.
How do we know which ones to follow or give attention to?
Imagine, for the first time in your life you see a road. And it is full of signs with different colours, shapes, sizes and information. Would you give each sign the same attention? What if you meet people on the road and they are telling you different stories about which signs you should look out for? How would you know which are the most important ones for you?
This morning I knew my destination, the direction and how to drive a car. So, those hundreds of signs didn’t distract me or got me off course. I knew which ones I needed to follow.
When you don’t know your direction it is like being on the road with all those signs for the first time. You easily get distracted.
What is your destination? Which road signs do you follow?
This workshop is designed for small business owners and professionals who want to develop confidence to speak in front of others. Learn to use the opportunity every time you make a presentation before an audience
You will learn to:
Build confidence as a speaker
Connect with your audience
Develop your own style of presenting
Enjoy sharing your ideas, proposals or visions
Manage your nerves and anxiety
Redirect your focus to engaging your audience
The only thing stopping people becoming a gifted speaker is fear or anxiety that need redirecting into confidence.
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“… the more a person believes that abilities can be developed, the greater the success that person will eventually enjoy.” (David Schenk in The Genius in All of Us, referring to research by Carol Dweck)
Something to inspire you to keep on learning and discovering new experiences. This video is made by Christian Borstlap for ‘Kinderpostzegels’ a charity focused on the promotion of children’s education. Enjoy.
Desperately holding on to something often holds us back in discovering the many possibilities to live a fulfilling life. It can be happiness, or sadness, or the way we think our life should look like, we easily get attached to. However, change is the one thing we can always count on. That one moment of intense happiness can last just a split second to be followed by frustration. Or a worry that held us in our grasp can just as easily evaporate and make room for confidence.
Here is a small experiment I want to share with you:
“Pick up a coin. Imagine it represents the object at which you are grasping. Hold it tightly clutched in your fist and extend the arm, with the palm or your hand facing the ground. Now, if you let go or relax your grip, you will lose what you are clinging onto. That’s why you hold on.
But there is another possibility: You can let go and yet can keep hold of it. With your arm still outstretched, turn your hand over so that it faces the sky. Release your hand and the coin still rests on your open palm. You let go. And the coin is still yours, even with all this space around it.”
(From: The Tibetan Book of Living and Dying by Sogyal Rinpoche)
Just imagine, how letting be might bring about many possibilities.
I realized my job was to awaken possibility in other people.
I was moved by this talk by Benjamin Zander, conductor of the Boston Philharmonic. His passion for new experiences and possibilities just swept me away. If you need something to inspire you, watch this:
Since 1979, Benjamin Zander has been the conductor of the Boston Philharmonic. He is known around the world as both a guest conductor and a speaker on leadership — and he’s been known to do both in a single performance. He uses music to help people open their minds and create joyful harmonies that bring out the best in themselves and their colleagues. (ref.: http://www.ted.com/speakers/benjamin_zander.html)
